The Psychology of Moving to Colorado Springs 06/23/2018by Julie DeLong, A-1 Freeman Moving Group Prepare for the Worst, Hope for the Best Moving is tough—regardless of the conditions, any time you must pack up all your cherished belongings (read--old college papers, items you've been meaning to fix, kids’ drawings) and move them to a new house is overwhelming for even the most lively and optimistic among us. When you've landed your dream job—five states away--and your significant other will have to vacate their career, when life has tossed you a huge curveball and you're essentially forced to move, when living by yourself is no longer an option---you have to manage a rollercoaster of emotional ups and downs alongside the tension of the actual move to Colorado Springs. A big stressor in moving is coping with the whims of the real estate business. You are a mature adult, valued in your community, and your life is utterly at the mercy of a bunch of people you have never met--what if your residence doesn't sell quickly? Suppose the people with the contract on your house change their minds? What if they decide they want you to leave the washer & dryer and the kids' playset? Suppose the appraiser notices the crack in the foundation that's sort of covered behind the landscaping? Suppose the inspector discovers your new residence has a wornout roof or there's a gas station and travel plaza projected for across the road from your new subdivision? Here is the deal. You have no authority over any of these things. The best thing is to ensure that the realtor selling your house and the realtor helping you with the new home are competent and do their jobs--and talk with both to have a contingency plan should something go off course. Consider real estate transactions a long run of dominoes--closings usually are dependent upon another closing happening as scheduled. One snafu five steps up the timeline can impact your buyers timetable, and the same thing goes for the home you are moving to—unforeseen setback could mean you cannot close at the time that you were planning on, and you're up all night thinking about how you are going to cope when you are homeless for a few days, or if you might just move into one of the moving company’s trucks and set up camp. Take a deep breath. One of the perks of the recession is that real estate rules have changed and there aren't the number of eleventh hour changes with your closings. You should discover any probable issues far before your closing time, and in the event something does fluctuate, moving companies are very used to working with changing timetables. If an issue does slow things down, you should have the choice of moving in a few days before you actually close--again, a good realtor plans for contingencies, so you don't have to fret about them. Talk to your realtors and lender once a week prior to your closing date to be sure all the inspections and repairs and whatnot are going as they should; being in the know provides you at least a feeling of control, and if there is a hiccup you're not caught unaware. If something unexpected does occur, like if you are building and an out-of-stock supply has delayed inspections and you don't have the occupancy certificate a few days prior to closing because the plumbing is not done, AND you've got an immovable closing date on your old home and the movers are slammed, do not panic. Most moving companies have temporary or long-term storage until you can get in your new house, and your realtor should be able to aid you in finding short-term housing until your home is ready. Problems like these are unlikely, but when they do occur your anxiety levels skyrocket--so rely on your team to help you deal with it. The Emotional Stages of Moving So, you are moving to Colorado Springs--and it might be welcome, it could be a challenge. You could be relocating three blocks or four hundred miles away. Everyone’s scenario is diverse, but people are mostly similar--the emotional rollercoaster just varies from residence to residence. Some are kiddie sized, with happy animated characters to ride in, and others mirror a gravity-defying, nausea-producing Loch Ness monster. The feat is to change that roller coaster into a peaceful ride with chipper little people humming "It's A Small World" as you pass through your closets. Some researchers and psychologists have linked moving--in any condition--to the Kubler-Ross five stages of grief model. Meaning, you experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. When you've created a life in a single place, it's absolutely standard to have regrets about leaving the home where you lovingly painted every room just the right color, where you brought your kids home, where you commemorated all those birthdays and anniversaries. If your move is not choice but an essentiality, it is alright to rage at the circumstances that have deposited you at the crossroads where you are vacating your home because you have no choice. Be furious, wail and scream at the walls and ask your family and friends for support. Take some time attempting to figure out how to not have to move—maybe your spouse could commute, or get a room in the new city; if you require help taking care of your house, you might be able to get live in help. Thinking through your choices, as insane as they might be, helps you think through the reality of moving so that it is a tad less painful to accept it. Then, you may spend a few days or weeks in denial, of sorts. This is when your relatives ask if they can stop over and help you sort through stuff, and you fib a tad and say you're almost completed, when in actuality you've pitched two dried up ink pens and an empty bottle of hand soap and haven’t picked up the first box for packing. If you are really having a hard time with the specifics of purging and packing, let your friends help. Or, ask your moving company to pack for you—most full-service movers have professional packers who can either get you going or do the whole job for you. At some point, you will accept the transition and change. It might not be the day the moving trucks arrive, it may take a few months. But the human spirit is an adaptable thing and you will come to accept and embrace your new locale in Colorado Springs. That is not to pretend it will be without angst, but being agreeable to start a new life and attempting new activities can ease the nostalgia for your old home and your old life. Your family members will all experience congruent feelings, although with varying degrees of ferocity--teenagers’ reactions are going to be a bit more bold than that of a younger child. If you're vacating your family house for senior living because one spouse is not doing well, then the more active spouse may experience more anger and denial. The important thing is to not forget that the emotional twists and turns are normal and it would be strange if you didn't feel sad or mad or a little crazy during the process. Keeping your move in perspective is key to arriving to the new home safe and sound. Your life is not kept in the brick and mortar of your old house, your life is in the memories you've created there. Remember that you won't lose old friends, and that you will make new ones. And someday, you'll open the front door and think to yourself, "I'm home." Easing the Transition People have habitual behavior ingrained in them--even babies pick their cuddly stuffed animal and there’ll be a small catastrophe if it is nowhere to be found at nap time. So, when you move, you are most of the time giving up most of your habits in place and even when you are excited about the new home, the new life you have got to build around it is demanding to even the most even keel person. When you're moving and worried about forging a new life for you and your family in Colorado Springs, here are some suggestions to assist with the transition. Get your family excited about the relocation to Colorado Springs. If this deciphers to agreeing that your teenage daughter can paint her favorite rock band’s newest album on her wall, put a smile on your face and go purchase the paint. It could mean that finally you have enough yard for a dog—figure out what kind of dog would fit best with your family, and as soon as you are settled into your new home, drive to the local shelter and get a new furry family member. Plan to bring home two, as the only thing better than saving one life, is saving two. Let your kids put up tents and camp out in that big backyard. Yes, it's bribery of a sort, but it is all for the best and the delight of new privileges and besides, puppies help everybody buy into the new house and town. And, if you are the one having a difficult time with it, seeing your family doing well goes a long way to improving your mood. When you're moving, the information superhighway (if you're older that phrase makes sense to you) makes the trip a lot simplier. You probably scoured real estate websites to find your new home and research schools and neighborhoods, so you have a pretty good idea already of your new locale. Use social media to connect with people--towns of every size have mom groups that offer all types of things from dentist reviews to the best piano lessons--and do not forget that your new neighbors can be very helpful. A lot of neighborhoods have websites and online directories that tell you whose kids babysit, dog walk and mow grass. If you have kiddos, getting them into new activities is lots more important to them than that orthodontist. Being able to get right back into soccer or karate or dance keeps them on a schedule and helps them assimilate into their new surroundings-the last thing you need is to have moping kiddos around the home complaining that they hate you and do not have any friends. And here's an interesting fact—research shows that moving in the middle of the school year is smoother for children than moving over the summer break. If you commence a new school at the beginning of the year it is more likely to get overlooked in the craziness of the new year , but when you start in the middle of the school year, it's more possible your kids will make friends faster and be more involved in school. The loss of a feeling of security can be a tough part of a relocation for the adults. When you are in the habit of swinging into a neighbor's home just because you know that she’s home, moving to a new area where you don't know anyone is tough. Keep in mind that your new neighbors are most likely interested in being friends with you, because they've likely said adios to their drive-by buddies and are looking forward to getting to know the new neighbors (aka – you!). Taking the dog for a walk is a sure-fire way to say hello to the neighbors--their curiosity about you is high, and this gives you an easy way to get to know everybody. Most churches and synagogues have newcomers’ classes that welcome you and your family, and help you to figure out how you fit within that community. The majority of schools would love to have more volunteers, so contemplate getting involved. And, if you're a member of a national association like Rotary or Junior League your membership can be easily transferred. Life changes are hard, but by granting yourself and your loved ones the okay to be a bit sad about the past will help everyone embrace the future. If you are contemplating a move, contact A-1 Freeman Moving Group to begin on your free in-home estimate. We promise to do our part to make your move to Colorado Springs as smooth as possible.