Managing Your Move to or in Colorado Springs: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the adult equivalent of middle school—everyone is very gungho about the thought, but it's only the folks with down-to-earth expectations who wind up having a trouble-free move. Yes, it is a new abode, a new beginning, and the possibility of a wonderful new life--but once that last empty truck pulls away and you are standing there amidst your boxes, you have still got to do the real work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to starting that new life on a positive note--and that means not only coming to terms with the fact that a new abode will not wondrously suck up the twenty pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally draining even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the stragne things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be more difficult on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new residende in another state removes the constant requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it could be less difficult to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the practicalities. There are three Ps when it comes to managing your move to or in Colorado Springs--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge has to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you'll pay. Expectation—I'll sort through old stuff and only hang on to what I love. Reality--you love lots more than you believe you do. No matter if you do your own packing or hire a professional moving company, you've got to determine what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those weird phrases you do not hear very often, at least in a affirmative connotation. However, releasing the old baggage is one of the wisest ways so that you can empower your new residence to bestow your expectations of wonderful. There are all kinds of guidelines and tips to help you figure out the best ways to get rid of your old things, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its simplest level, purging is basically sorting through all the cupboards, closets and drawers and forming three piles: take with you, throw away, donate. Or you may have four piles if you've got some nice items that you don't need anymore, and consign those items. The hardest thing about purging is maintaining the aloofness you need to be cutthroat about tossing items. If you stored all those pre-school paintings, how can you get rid of them and be a great parent? Here's a tip—have a friend help you go through things and talk you through why you're holding onto items that are really better to be gotten rid of. Having a friend ask you out loud why you want to keep the 1980s Walkman does put things in focus and you'll have a pain-free time growing the get-rid-of pile if you've got someone to reinforce your decisions. If your partner is the one with the hoarder impulses, here is a suggestion for helping an unwilling significant other part with their treasures. Think small, and begin with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and broken screwdrivers to one time only and steadily get to bigger items, like collections (for example, select two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch up us next time as we review managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.